Everyone sits down, the rules get written, and they apply to the whole house. The content of the plan matters less than the two features that define it: it is explicit, so nobody is improvising at bedtime, and it binds the adults, so it is a rule about the household rather than a rule about being a child. It is the approach most likely to survive a second parent disagreeing, because the disagreement gets had once and written down.
What it asks of you
- Actually sitting down and writing it, which most households never get to
- Living under your own rule, including the part about phones at dinner
- Revisiting it, because a plan written for a five-year-old is wrong for an eight-year-old